Just Because You're Vegan Doesn't Mean You Have to be an Asshole

in #vegan7 years ago (edited)

Throughout the years, I have encountered and witnessed some of the worst behavior coming from a group of people who claim to have high morals and compassion. I am indeed referring to the vegans who, at times, leave me in absolute shock when they decide to open their mouths.

Calling meat eaters terrible people is pretty dramatic in itself, but vegans can go even lower than that. A well known YouTuber, known as FreeLee, once said that meat eaters actually deserve to be killed. In my opinion, that makes vegans look exactly like what they call meat eaters; terrible people.

Don't get me wrong, I am not a meat eater. I eat mostly vegan, except when I do plant diets in Peru. Now, that may sound like a total oxymoron, but a diet having to do with being an apprentice in shamanism isn't the same thing as a vegan plant diet. In the Shipivo culture of Peru, during a plant dieta you go into isolation and learn how to do the work of a shaman through plant spirits, and you cut out all salt and sugar. Plant dietas usually consist of eating only fish and plantain for the time you are in diet.

Because I'm usually vegan, training to be a shaman has become challenging, as I have to give it up for the months I train so I can acquire the tiny amount of nutrients I can get during my diet. But sometimes, you're starving. This is a good time to be kind and forgiving toward yourself, especially when you have to do something you wouldn't normally do.

Vegans have incredibly pure intentions. Their love and compassion expand outward towards the sweet souls that cannot speak for themselves. The problem is that some vegans are absolute control freaks. And I've noticed that the control freaks seem to be the loudest ones in the vegan movement.

In a sense, I have empathy for the control freak vegans who carry a massive amount of anger and frustration towards the public. We live in an upside-down world where the rainforest is being destroyed for soy farms to feed the cattle, and the majority of people still pretend to remain absolutely fucking clueless that their choices and actions have consequences on this planet.

On the other hand, this behavior is atrocious and does nothing to inspire people to convert to a healthier way of living. How do I know this?

It takes one to know one.

I stopped eating meat in 2010. From that time until 2013, my love for animals turned into hatred for my fellow human beings. I called meat eaters "fat and stupid sheeple with no compassion." I quite literally pushed anyone close to me who ate meat away, and I can guarantee that I did not inspire change in a single person during those years. The only person I was affecting was myself, and it wasn't in a positive way.

It was during one specific Ayahuasca ceremony that I was forced to look at my controlling attributes and judgemental attitude towards people who didn't have the same moral compass that I did. To those people I called names, I was reminded that those people could have made a huge positive impact on the world. How would I know? I came out of that ceremony with a massive amount of peace because I realized in that time that most everyone has good intentions, and everyone is on their own path.

In a spiritual essence, the moral of that ceremonial story was this:

We are spiritual beings having a physical experience. Each one of us has our own story. Each one of us is learning at our own pace. Life itself is a learning experience. We are exactly where we need to be and have learned exactly what we need to know, Individually and on a global scale. Let others live their own journey, because in the end we all go back to the same place anyway.

Everyday, there are more people who begin their journey of eliminating dead animal flesh out of their diets. Others will never change, and that's ok. But as vegans, we need remember to extend our compassion and our patience to our fellow humans. You never know, you could be the person that people look to for advice when they make the change. If the saying "you are what you eat" is really true, then be happy with your life choice. Be the change you want to see, and then you will start to notice that others will start to become inspired too.

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The vegans who act this way are no different than the anarchists who are always screaming at "statists" and calling them sheeple. These are people who are almost always quite emotionally immature, and tend to fall into one of two categories:

  1. They still hold judgments about themselves for having been on the other side of the fence for so long. As long as they are holding that self-judgment, that self-hate, it spews out at other people, because they've now changed the behavior, so those emotions couldn't be coming up about themself right?
  2. These are the people who have always treated others poorly when they "know" something that the other person doesn't. People who like to tell others about something not to empower or educate them, but to show how much more they know.

Something that applies to both categories equally, as well as vegans & anarchists equally, is that these are people who do not understand the importance of communication, do not understand how much better compassion & listening are to helping someone change themselves, and possibly who do not actually care about the ideas that they espouse, only about the superiority it allows them to feel.

Interesting read, I am myself not vegan but eating meat only once or twice a week, I do know how bad meat production is for the environment and all the pills and bad food the animals are given and how bad they are treated. However I still enjoy a bit of chicken or bacon once in while because It tastes good and also If I am invited for diner I will just eat whatever my hosts prepare. I cannot imagine going out and say : sorry I cannot eat this and that, because I am vegan ...I think Its kind of annoying for the hosts ( unless they are vegans of course), Anyway, I am totally fine with the vegan thing but It gets quite annoying when people get obsessed with that and try to convert everyone around them . It's OK to talk about It but dont make It an obsession .
I enjoyed reading you, great article, I upvote

Eating what your host makes for you is a part of the Buddhist philosophy, and I totally agree with it. Thank you for the upvote! Hopefully this wasn't too pushy. I see both sides and I'm not trying to change anyone, because frankly the only person I can change is myself :)

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You totally sucked me in thinking this was going to be a total rip on vegans. but it was more like a sympathetic piece of advise.

Being apart of this ethical/dietary shift myself, i haven't always been so graceful in my approach when addressing carnists. Although I'm pretty chill now, the reputation of being 'judgey' or 'militant' lingers on.

A lot of the assholery is usually by the young pups, the noobs to veganism, i find.

Great post!

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It's easy to get into 'preachy' mode when you really believe in something. My diet is pescatarian, but accept that it's not for everyone. I do with people would at least consider eating less meat. Some almost do it out of spite, but for most it's just what they do and they don't even think about it. Antagonising the will not help. We just need to encourage everyone to think about the consequences of their actions.

The phrase that comes to mind is "assholier than thou".

Really kind, thank you <3

upvote for a fb friend and fellow steemer :-)

it always helps when its a good read too

Wise words! Thanks Macey

I agree with your statement! We cannot control what people eat, so we just have to accept their choices and be open. We have our reasons to be vegan, and they have their reasons to eat meat.