The 3 Reasons Relationships Fail

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"Relationships account for 80% of our happiness." -unknown

Whether or not you agree with this quote entirely, most people would agree that relationships play a significant role in our happiness and well-being.

Some people naturally develop incredible relationship skills.
Others might never learn these skills directly, and constantly struggle in their relationships as a result.

No matter how good or not good someone may be in relationships, there is always room for growth.

In this short clip, Niurka describes the 3 Reasons Relationships Fail.

  1. Incongruence of Core Values
    Example: One partner values adventure and freedom, the other partner values comfort and security.

  2. Negative Anchors
    Example: Imagine one partner has a bad day at work then comes home and sees their spouse, and when they see their spouse while feeling bad, they associate that negative feeling of the bad day with seeing their spouse. If this association is fired in the brain day after day, the partner eventually conditions the negative feeling of the bad day with seeing their spouse, and the link starts to work both ways, so that the partner sees their spouse, and then starts feeling bad as if they have had a bad day.

  3. Unfulfilled Love Strategies
    Example: In the beginning, the relationship is new and exciting. Over time, the newness and excitement dies down and the partners start to revert to their normal ways of being.

Niurka is "A Woman Devoted To Inspire & Empower
Founder & CEO of Niurka, Inc.
Creator of Supreme Influence
World Class Keynote Speaker
Author with Random House
Hypnotherapy Master Practitioner & Trainer
NLP Master Practitioner & Trainer
Pranic Healing Master Practitioner
Former Top Trainer for Anthony Robbins"

For more information:
www.niurkainc.com

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"Relationships account for 80% of our happiness." -unknown
"Happiness is a choice" Adam Kokesh
I like the latter. I don't believe you need to be in a relationship to be happy. Or is this some kind of heavy self-deception?

I agree that happiness is a choice. But as humans we can not help feeling joy as a result of certain experiences... like hearing your favorite song, winning money, the first time seeing a close friend after several years, etc. The experience of relationships has a major influence on human happiness, but I don't think its necessarily needed to feel happiness. I have found that many people unconsciously allow circumstances and conditions to determine their happiness. They just don't know any better, they never learned. Understanding that happiness is a choice is very empowering, and as a result it would appreciate relationships tremendously.

Thank you for elaborating.

Good stuff on Niurkas video also looks like its going to be a rocking class upvoted.