DEALING WITH HURT

in #life7 years ago (edited)

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There is no doubt that Hurt is one of the most difficult things to deal with as a human.
I have come to understand that, being hurt by people is something that can NOT be avoided in life. No matter how much of a good heart you have, you will still find people who will not appreciate the good in you.

Hurt comes with a lot of pain and until the pain is gotten rid of, forgiveness can NOT come to play. Hurt can be caused only by a trusted person, I mean getting disappointed by someone who we thought or believed could never do anything to make us unhappy.

Examples of people that can possibly cause hurt are either friends, family member, lover, or any trusted person.
The power to feel offended, hurt or pained lies in your hands.

To err is human, and to forgive is divine

I've also come to realize that, too much expectations from people, is one of the major factors that causes hurt. It is good and healthy not to have very high expectations from people, no matter the circumstances.
Don't let anybody take you for granted, no matter what and always remember you have the ability to control the way people's disappointing behaviour or act get to you, with the help of God.

Some kinds of hurt are usually intentional while some just get to happen out of the blues, but I personally think there's more of the intentional ones than the other.

We are humans and we vary in character and other things. It takes some people little time to get over hurt while it takes some others much longer time. It varies between different people, because our emotional and tolerance level differ a lot.

So what am I saying exactly?
Below are few tips that very helpful in dealing with hurt:

Take it to God
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At times like this when we are at the peak of hurting, we find it hard to talk to anybody about it. So the first step to take is to take it to God, cry as much as you need to but just pour out your heart to Him. He is always ready and willing to be involved in anything that concerns you. He specializes in lifting burdens off our chest 'cause He is God and He will give you peace that surpasses any kind of peace that man might give.

Forgive Yourself
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Yes, this is the next important thing you need to do. It is normal for us as humans to blame ourselves for the hurt people cause us. That's when you'll hear something like "I trusted you too much", "How could I have fallen so hard for your lies" blah blah blah. Yes darling, it has happened, you have been disappointed. It wasn't your fault. Having a soft heart is not a crime, you are wonderfully made.
So go ahead and forgive yourself without casting any further blames.

Forgive the Offender
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I know how this can be really difficult but trust me, it makes you feel soooooooooo much better. Holding grudges is an unhealthy act to engage in. You are the only suffering yourself 'cause you keep feeling sad and unhappy over a mistake that can't be undone. Forgive, and forget, they say, but I'd say Forgive, and forgive again. Even God never gets tired of forgiving us of our iniquities if we continue to acknowledge Him & seek His mercy.
At the end of it, just make sure you do not let your forgiveness turn into foolishness. Never give them the opportunity or chance to hurt you ever again.

Let Go
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This is the final step to take when dealing with forgiveness. You have taken it to God, forgiven yourself as well as your offender, all that is left for you to do is to let go of it all.
Letting go gives you peace of mind, 'cause you will not need to bother about anything or anyone that made you unhappy and sad.
God also helps to make this phase very easy, and before you know it, you don't even remember the hurt anymore. You have to be willing to replace every iorta of unhappiness or pain with joy, peace and hope that flows from within.

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iRoyal Cares deeply❤

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I really enjoyed your piece, getting hurt and forgiving is sometimes easy said than done, but we just need to forgive anyway because that's when we too can have peace of mind. Thanks

Exactly, it is not an easy process but it is a necessity in order for us to grow. I'm glad you were able to gain a thing or two. Supporting with your upvote would be equally appreciated.
Thanks

Letting go is such a great task. The fact that it gives peace of mind makes it a blessing.

Great piece @iroyal. It's a fantastic message.

Yes, that peace of mind is very essential. I'm glad you were able to ge the message passed accross. Thank you dear

Nice piece dear... I am new here can you follow back please.

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